Did Twitter bring you here? Child abuse HURTS!

 Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a counselor.


You may of seen a message on your twitter account that says #childabuse hurts.tweet to save a child RT @trinasbabies



Please bare with me while I explain my idea and why it is important to me. I am a mom of six wonderful children and married to a Deputy Sheriff. My husband and I adopted my biological sisters four children this year from foster care.

Before anyone says I should not be speaking about my children being abused.......... I won't give any details...... But I WILL speak out against child abuse. This is something I have spoke  about with my children and we all agree we can Tweet  against abuse and save a child! Child abuse should never be a secret and although I won't give details I will fight with all I have in me to save as many children as I can. I'm asking my friends that follow my blog to also please help me get the world out about tweeting against child abuse.

Child abuse had ran wild in my family for years.I was a victim of sexual child abuse as a child and as a preteen I was given up for adoption and I aged out of the foster care system when I married my wonderful husband.

Child abuse has been a topic that was/is mostly unspoken in my biological family. My aunt whom I lived with for a few months when I was in foster care did not even know until this year that my biological mom had given me up for adoption.

 I am sick of being the family secret.I am very thankful that now everyone knows the truth.Well everyone except my step Grandparents. I don't have the heart to tell them that I was not a out of control child  but yet their son sexually abused me and my sister.Because I do not want to break their heart I have made the choice to disappear from their life.I have only got to see my Step Grandparents a handful of times in over 15 years but how I charish the times I seen them as a child they was good people and I love/loved them. I can not believe how many thought I was living with friends when I was in Foster homes all them years. Where did they really think I was at Holidays or when they came to visit? 

This year I broke the news to my younger brothers of why I did not live with him as a child one was told I "lived with friends" While the oldest of my two brothers said he already knew.The youngest brother was just a toddler when I was taken away and said he never really understood why I was not around as it was not spoken of unless he asked. I would go and see both my brothers when I was able to just drop in once in a while and go to see them on some Holidays.I tried to convince myself that my biological mom and step dad  had changed and although they had changed in some ways the things they did in the past and the way they still was treating me was unacceptable and not something I had to put up with. Besides they gave me up for adoption I am not legally related to them and no longer have to try to beg or buy their love.besides by gosh I am a loveable person and as my husband says anyone would be lucky to love me! *awww*

 My children have Grandparents* my husbands parents* and deserve great Grandparents not subpar Grandparents. I guess what I am trying to say is my children not having Grandparents from myside of the family is not going to effect their childhoods! When you ask my children who their Grandparents are they will with pride tell you who it is and it is not my biomonsters! They do know who my biomonsters are and they also know why we do not see them. I've been very honest with my children and they agree with me that we don't need them in our lives. I have some great children hu?


When I found out my sister was abusing /neglecting and allowing others to abuse her biological children it really hit home for me. She was doing what was did to her,what she seen as "normal".  I won't excuse what she has did to (now) my children but I will say I think she did drugs to cover the pain of her childhood.

When I first found out  my sister had abused her biological children I was so angry at her! I am still angry at her. I yelled and I screamed , I cried!  I told her there was no excuse! She was an adult and could make the choice to not do drugs to not allow her children to be abused. That her being abused played no role in her abusing her children. How could it?  I was abused just as long and just as bad but I would never harm a child. My sister and I was never adopted and spent years in and out of Foster homes. She was never given the chance to be shown what a normal life was.Not only was we in and out of foster homes we was not in the same foster homes and only seen each other a couple times over the years.( except one weekend) She  (we) lost everything we had ever knew.

I dont think the same now. I think if  our biological mom would not allowed her husband to abuse my sister and I  that my sister would not of  been taught  what abuse was and would not of turned to drugs to cover her own pain and in the end would not of abused her biological children. Because of what my biological mother did and allowed I have now lost my only sister. She has spent her adult life using drugs and dating abusive men to cover pain that runs so deep pain that I fear she will never get over.

I miss her........... I miss who she once was...... I miss her hugs....... I miss the times we played as a child. I miss the good times however she will never be allowed in my life again or my childrens life.. The Cycle had to be broken and unfortunally it has cost me my only sister and cost my sister her biological children.I did not see my sister much as a adult or my ( now adoptive children) but that does not mean I do not miss who she once was. 

 My sister not only lost her biological children but she lost her only sister, her brother in law, her niece and nephew. I was unable to save my sister and I will feel guilt for the rest of my life because of that.I think of my sister all alone in the world and it about kills me.  I am down right angry at my bio mom and step dad. I have more anger this year then I have had my whole life at them. HOW DARE THEM! Do they really understand what they have done? Does my sister understand what she has done or will she always take drugs to cover the pain? My sister and I had over 10 years of child abuse and it was just passed right on to her ( now my) children. If we don't speak out against child abuse the cycle will continue.

Nore my sister or I ever finished high school ( I did not even get to high school)  that is just another thing that was robbed from me and her to say it has made life a lot harder would go without saying. I am not STUPID because I did not get to high school and I will not take the blame for the hand I was delt however one day I will get my GED and I will show myself I CAN do it. MY PAST will not define my future! PERIOD. I hope one day it wont define my sisters future.

 I may Legally not have family except my husband my children and my husbands parents but I do have the ability to blog and tweet! How cool is that? You also have that ability! We can save one child at a time.

I have learned legally having family does not mean everything.I do still have my Bio Aunts and although I don't see them unless it is a family emergency I do still love them. I have also built my own simply perfect family that are not biologically or other wise related to me. I do have to admitt it is lonely not being surrounded by family though. However don't feel sorry for me! Your not allowed to! No pitty either!  I don't feel sorry for myself and I don't pitty myself and neither can you. Your not allowed that's that!  I'm not doing this to get someone to give me a compliment. I am doing this in  hope to get someone to help me Tweet to save a child.  I have six GREAT children and such a wonderful husband. I know I will never be hurt again nore will my children.. heck I have my own personal Deputy!

Are you still reading? I promise that the whole purpose of the tweet was not to show you I was a abused child but to show you that if I had known when I was a young child that child abuse was wrong I could of asked for help sooner  instead of telling my bio mom and her ignoring me and maybe just maybe my sister could of been saved and in the end my adoptive children would not of been abused. I am very thankful to have them as my children however I would of did anything for them to not of been abuse and for it to not of ended as it has.


I have been trying to do " Safe Sunday" for a few months now with the Idea if you blog against child abuse you can save a child or make a abuser think before they act. Very few of my blog followers will blog with me against child abuse and I've been puzzled about this. I see contest where people enter thousands of times but yet they won't take one minute out of their day and blog or tweet against child abuse.

I am even offering a contest  click here for the contest!


Why are so many people scared of blogging or tweeting against child abuse? I think I know the answer. Child abuse is a scary thing and it is a real thing. It is something that can go unseen and unspoken you can not always see the effects of child abuse on the outside so it is something that is easy to over look. Most people will say child abuse does not effect them personally so it is not something they think about everyday. The sad and scary fact is child abuse is a real issue in the world today and although you may think you don't know someone that is being abused the chance is you have seen thousands of abused children in your life. When you are walking a store stop and look........ Do you see that child? That child could be abused. That very child could one day read your blog and ask for help and you may be the person that saves that child. How great would it be to save a child! Give a child a life they may not of had a chance of having before.A dream of being a normal healthy child with parents that love them and care for them.

Thousands of children read blogs and use the Internet everyday and use and read twitter everyday. There is a very good chance a abused child will one day read one of the blogs or tweets and reach out for help.



What is the worse thing that could happen if you tweet against child abuse? You lose a minute of your day but a child could gain a life.



Many parents and adults read twitter and what if a parent reads twitter and has been abusing their child and decides to reach out and get help for themselves? IT COULD happen. Are you willing to take the chance that it could save a chid? I am




In 2008 it was said that there was 112.8 million blogs! Twitter has 14 million visitors in the US alone! That is amazing!




I have been told ............. You can't change the world by yourself and my answer to them is ........... You can't deny me the chance of trying.





Can you help me try to change the world? If so please help me tweet or blog against child abuse it only takes a minute a day and something amazing can and WILL come out of it.Just take a second when you are tweeting or blogging daily. Even if I am never told about the child that was saved I will go to sleep at night knowing I have helped a child escape harms way.  Maybe we can even set a record of the most tweets on one topic! How great would it be if that topic was tweeting against child abuse! If you will add me as a friend on twitter I will remind you to tweet daily.

When you tweet against child abuse please add #childabuse at the beginning and  RT #trinasbabies at the end as I would love to see all the tweets and blogs! Don't forget to enter the contest here as well
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Please read if you are being abused and please reach out and get help. YOU HAVE NOTHING to be ashamed of and it is NOT YOUR FAULT!  you can get help and we can help you get that help! Your parents can get help and so can you!  YOU ARE CARED ABOUT AND LOVED!



The Following is taken from http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.







A lot of people don't realize it, but every day in the United States thousands of kids are abused and neglected. That adds up to millions of kids each year.






Often children and teens are abused or neglected by the people who are closest to them like family, friends, sitters, neighbors and sometimes even teachers and coaches. These are the very people that children should feel the safest with.










If you need help or have questions about child abuse or child neglect, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a counselor.






The Hotline counselors are available 365 days a year to help kids, and even adults who are concerned about kids they suspect are being abused or neglected. You can call this number if you live in the United States, Canada, Puerto Rico, Guam or the U.S. Virgin Islands.






The call is free and anonymous. (The Hotline counselors don't know who you are and you don't have to tell them.) There won't be a charge for the call on your telephone bill if you use a regular phone or a pay phone. If you use a mobile phone or cell phone, there may be a charge and it may show up on the telephone bill. Don't use a mobile or cell phone if you want to be sure your call is a secret. But please...do not make prank calls to the Hotline. This will tie up the phones and keep us from talking to someone who really needs help right away.